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Learn how to stop worrying about what others think of you with two simple sentences!

For as long as I can remember, I have been a worry wart.  I somewhat blame it on my environment growing up since basically everyone’s experiences as children and teens tend to impact their personality as adults.  I also largely attribute it to the fact that I am pretty Type-A and a self identified perfectionist and control freak.

While having these qualities has been beneficial at many times in my life (hello, driven and high achieving), it has certainly hurt me as well.  Having that internal drive to be “perfect” or “the best” at everything caused me to miss out on things I was afraid to try. It also turned me into someone who nearly constantly worried about how others perceived them.

Stop Worrying About What Others Think of You with 2 simple sentences! | cleaneatingveggiegirl.com #bodypositive #selfloveI worried about who liked me and didn’t like me.
I worried about earning the perfect grades and GPA.
I worried about what I looked like in a bathing suit and whether or not I was “skinny enough.”
I worried about what others would think of the decisions I made (regarding anything and everything).

I worried a lot and missed out on a lot all at the same time.

It wasn’t until after college that I started to work on thinking less about how others perceived me and more on how I perceived myself.  Thinking about it now, I am sure this largely aligned with the time that my health issues began.  When your health is failing you, you often have to take the time to be selfish and do what is best for you.  This also usually means focusing on your health first instead of the way your body looks or what others think of your decisions.

Don’t get me wrong.  I’m not saying that I never worry anymore.  I definitely do.  And probably a lot more than “laid back” people do.  But my level of worry wartness has gone from cray cray to just your average worrier.

I have amazing friends and family and generally only care about what they think of me instead of worrying about what the entire world (including people I don’t vibe with) thinks of me.
I am learning to step outside of my comfort zones at work and in the blogging world in order to try new things. <– definitely a work in progress.
I am worrying far less about the way my body looks and more about the way it works.
I don’t worry about saying “no” or declining something if I know it will not bring positivity to my world or if it will unnecessarily stress me out.

So you might be wondering… how am I working to make this transition within my mind?

It’s pretty simple, really.  I tell myself these two sentences whenever I start thinking or worrying about what other are thinking of me, my body, or what I am doing or not doing:

Stop worrying about what other people think.  They’re too busy worrying and thinking about themselves to notice!

I really don’t mean this to sound like I think all people are self-centered and only care about themselves.  Of course that isn’t true in many cases.  But in a lot of cases, it really is!

When you are worried about giving a speech in front of a class or in a meeting, just remember that the other people in the room are probably thinking about their speech and what they are going to say.

When you are worried about how you look in that bathing suit or that dress, remind yourself that everyone else is likely doing the same thing… except about themselves.

When you are worried about whether your blog photos are “good enough” or you are posting the “right thing,” think about how others are critiquing and criticizing their own work.

When you are worried about making the “right” decision, remember that others are grappling with their own decisions that need to be made.

Stop Worrying About What Others Think of You with 2 simple sentences! | cleaneatingveggiegirl.com #bodypositive #selfloveNext time you catch yourself worrying about something that involves how others perceive you, take a moment to tell yourself those two sentences.  Please stop worrying about what others think of you.  Because in the end, it doesn’t matter AND they probably aren’t spending all that much time thinking about YOU in the first place!

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  • Erin @ Her Heartland Soul July 18, 2016, 7:06 am
    I love and agree with this post x a million!!! Erin @ Her Heartland Soul recently posted...Planning a Trip to Kansas City: Where to StayMy Profile
    • ClnEatingVegGrl July 18, 2016, 12:52 pm
      Yay! I'm so glad you can relate... though I'm pretty sure most people can! ;)
  • Joanna July 18, 2016, 11:33 am
    So much YES! I feel like this is a lot like what we were talking about on our way home from dinner. Love this message!
    • ClnEatingVegGrl July 18, 2016, 12:54 pm
      Yes it definitely was! I've had this on my mind a lot more lately, and I wish it was something that more people talked about/focused on!
  • Lauren July 18, 2016, 6:31 pm
    I absolutely love this post and I have been on a very similar journey. I am in a place now where I say a similar thing to myself when I start worrying about how I am being perceived or what others think. In the end all it matters is how we feel about ourselves and if we are doing what is true for us. Like you said, everyone is paying more attention to themselves, and if anything does think anything negative, as long as you are being true to yourself, who cares!? Not everyone will like us and our work and that has been a huge wake up call for me over the years, it is so freeing to realise we don't have to please anyone else!
    • ClnEatingVegGrl July 19, 2016, 9:01 am
      Yay! I'm so glad you are along on the journey. It is WAY to stressful to try pleasing everyone... especially when that is impossible!
  • Michelle July 19, 2016, 7:48 am
    This is something I ALWAYS need to hear! I worry about all the things you mention above. Especially about what people think of my decisions in life about career etc. But they are my decisions to make! It's so important to remember this and check in with yourself about it. Thank you for sharing : ) https://thedogtribe.com/2016/07/18/weekend-in-philly/
    • ClnEatingVegGrl July 19, 2016, 9:03 am
      Exactly! We all need that reminder.. sometimes on a daily basis ;)
  • Ruth July 21, 2016, 9:21 am
    This was a wonderful reminder to read through. If only we could have read letters from our future selves telling us to relax and show ourselves some love. It constantly reminds me to be thankful for those friends and family who love you! Ruth recently posted...Summer CSA Week 12My Profile
    • ClnEatingVegGrl July 21, 2016, 10:18 am
      Yes, no kidding! Maybe I should write a letter to my future self now ;)

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